Because of my anxiety, the possibility of being rejected by a girl I liked felt cataclysmic.So fantasy stories like taught me how to persevere, quietly and nobly, in pursuit of young ladies who were probably quite unaware of my existence. It's something that can cause significant stress and discomfort, and in extreme cases possibly even cause panic attacks and feelings of low self-worth as a result of social situations.But if you ask anyone that has social anxiety what their biggest regret is, it's that it's hard to date and find relationships.Explaining that sometimes you don't text back for two days because your brain just sorta shuts down for a bit. Sometimes you just have to turn off your phone and shut yourself in because things just get too overwhelming and your brain needs a serious staycation.12.
And, in turn, this cycle of anxiety resulted in an anxiety disorder. )Anxiety disorders are a total BLAST when you're dating. Taking a break from the dating world to actually deal with my “issues” would mean a sexless life, and there was no way in hell I was going to do that. My best friend Lilly* suffers from anxiety, too, but she's also a big dater.
We were both dating with anxiety and had the scars to prove it.
We concluded that our failed dating lives were a direct result of living in a perpetual state of ~panic~.
Crying and hyperventilating on a park bench for no reason apparent to anyone but you realllllly gets those dicks up!
One minute, you're having a great date at a free outdoor concert, and the next minute, your heart is pounding and you feel like you are trapped in a Ziploc bag. "Playing it cool" is straight-up not in your repertoire. There's gotta be a country where "sitting at a bar staring into space and inevitably sweat-staining the pits of your expensive Madewell top while your brain moves 100 miles an hour" is considered playing it cool. Anyone familiar with benzos (that's an #INSIDER'S term for anxiety-alleviating tranquilizers) knows that they don't mix well with alcohol. Worst case scenario, you black out and wake up at the Formica table at an Arbys in another state. And you're so worried about whether they'll like you that you barely pay any attention to whether you like them. Every time a guy doesn't text you back in the early stages of dating you assume the worst and immediately go into crisis mode.