After one date, after three dates, after three months… But it left me thinking: Why would I choose not to go out with a woman a second time? Drinking habits, driving habits, fashion choices – none of them enter the equation. Amazingly, the reasons are always the same – and they were the very same reasons I’d pulled away from many surprised, confused women myself… Here’s what I came up with: She wasn’t physically attractive to me. Places frequented by tourists in Medellin are more saturated with foreigners than before.Hot Medellin girls are not the sole reason for this rise in tourism to “The City of Eternal Spring”, but it is definitely up there.Medellin women are beautiful, and word is spreading pretty much around the world. I had to learn everything from experience, and it’s been a blast. When I first arrived here, there wasn’t yet a complete guide to dating paisa women.
I can tell you what happened – if you’re ready to turn your love life around forever… I thought the list was so hysterical, that I included it in the first draft of my book. In all my years of dating, I never stopped to dissect the behavior of my female dates. Do I feel good about myself when I’m spending time with you? Which means that all of your amazing qualities may not even matter to him at ALL! You ran a half-marathon and raised twelve thousand dollars for leukemia? Understand, men DO value intelligence, but they also want from their girlfriend what they CAN’T get from their business associates. I have another guy friend who has complained about not being able to have deep discussions with virtually every single girlfriend he has had.
I am actually Colombian, my family is Colombian, and more importantly (aside from my height, 6’2″) I look Colombian.
I have lived my entire life, barring the past 5 years of course, in Southern California.
You see, I have a unique perspective – I’ve not only dated hundreds of women (before I became happily married) but I’m a coach for both women and men. Suddenly, the editors were on the phone with a question: “Funny list, but what about a list for women? It’s not that I was above it; rather, I never even thought about it. You graduated summa cum laude from an Ivy League masters program? I think a lot of women reading your blog are concerned about more than just getting a 2nd date. And from the guys I’ve known, it seems that they care more about sexiness and lightness when it comes to deciding to have LTRs with women.
And I’ve had countless nice, decent, relationship-oriented guys tell me why it SEEMED like they really liked a woman but then bailed on her. I finally cobbled something together with the help of some friends.